For most brides, a “dream wedding” has become synonymous with one that has a large guest count, full weekend agenda, and extravagant details, such as over the top florals and décor. Whether it’s a destination wedding somewhere tropical or a weekend in Aspen, generally the thought process is bigger is better. While it can be fun to invite every single person you know, there is something to be said for hosting an intimate affair–a micro wedding.

These small, private weddings–coined “micro” weddings–have increased in popularity in 2020 due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Looking ahead, they may even become the norm for those who plan their wedding in 2021 as social distancing guidelines tighten. 

For couples looking to hold a smaller, more intimate celebration surrounded by their closest family and friends, a micro wedding may be the perfect answer. 

What is a Micro Wedding?

A micro wedding is a nuptial affair with 40 people or fewer in attendance. While a smaller-scale celebration, don’t confuse a micro wedding with an elopement. Both are small, but an elopement implies a spontaneous, quick wedding with few (if any) guests, whereas a micro wedding is anything but. 

Trading an extravagant affair for a smaller one doesn’t mean a Vegas chapel or a quick trip to the courthouse. In fact, it is quite the contrary. A micro wedding contains all the elements of a traditional ceremony, including a beautiful venue, photographer, florals, cake, and decor. Plus, they offer benefits that large, traditional weddings cannot. 

Benefits of a Micro Wedding 

With a smaller guest list, micro weddings enable you to spend more quality time experiencing your big day with your closest friends and family. This smaller guest count also provides room in your budget to include special and more lavish touches. With fewer people, it may be easier to achieve those Pinterest-worthy wedding details without completely breaking the bank.

Additionally, you can spend more money per guest–be it on the catering and bar, gift bags, or accommodations–to ensure each person has a memorable experience.

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Big Ideas for a Small, Micro Wedding

If you are considering having a micro wedding, check out our biggest ideas for the perfect intimate wedding celebration. 

1. Choose a Unique Destination

Having an intimate wedding gives you more flexibility to find locations that are meaningful, exciting, or out of the ordinary. While a large wedding requires a large traditional venue space, a micro wedding can take place pretty much anywhere. Consider marrying at the top of a mountain in Wyoming or a vineyard in Napa. With unique wedding venue options, the location becomes an integral part of the wedding experience… and can even be a vacation, too. 

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2. Emphasize Your Ceremony

A smaller guest count means you can have fun with your ceremony seating by incorporating unique elements such as pews or garden benches. With a more intricate focus on the little details, each aspect of your wedding can be fully transformed to encompass your wedding vision at every turn.


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3. Splurge on Your Dream Tabletop

When you only have a small group to entertain, you can treat them to the most beautiful china, specialty monogrammed linens, personalized paper goods, and surprises at their seats. Then your wedding table becomes more than a place to eat. It becomes the space where you gather together, share past memories, and create new ones with your closest loved ones. 

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4. Put the Haute Into Cuisine

If you’re a foodie, a smaller guest list gives you the opportunity to create a custom menu with your caterer. You can add courses and menu items you might not have been able to with a larger wedding. Consider adding table-side or French-style service for a luxurious touch.

5. Feast in Style

Incorporating long feasting tables into a wedding is an elegant décor decision that we adore. And a smaller guest count at a micro wedding allows you to create a truly intimate dinner party where everyone is hosted at one long table for dinner.



6. Upgrade Your Bar 

If you have a larger wedding, you have to be more budget-conscious when it comes to serving your guests. As such, offering each guest a pre-ceremony cocktail may not be feasible. However, with a smaller guest count, you can afford to kick things off with a pre-ceremony signature cocktail or champagne pour for everyone. Add edible flowers and herbs or special touches, such as personalized stir sticks and coordinating straws, to each drink for a more unique cocktail experience.


7. Incorporate Special Gifts

One of the best things about an intimate micro wedding is the ability to make your guests feel special and enhance their experience. You can do this by gifting your guests personalized welcome bags the night before the wedding. Or you can leave special messages in their guest rooms each evening with small gifts and memorabilia until they depart. Doing so invites them to be part of the entire wedding experience rather than just being spectators of it.


8. Add Personalized and Unique Touches

With a micro wedding, you have the creative freedom to add personalized touches and unique elements to your big day. You can opt for an unusual “guest book,” asking guests to write a message on a vintage bottle of wine, sign a block from a Jenga game, snap photos on Polaroid cameras for a visual guest book, or sign a favorite cookbook or coffee table book. 

A Micro Wedding is the Unique, Intimate Celebration You’ve Always Wanted 

Large weddings are not for everyone. If you’ve been dreaming of a small, intimate wedding celebration, now there is a name for it: a micro wedding. With a small guest list, you have more room in your budget to incorporate elaborate design, food, and ceremonial elements that you otherwise might not have been able to. Plus–and most importantly, in our opinion–you have the time to spend meaningful moments with the ones you love. A micro wedding enables you to have your tiny cake and to eat it with those you care about most, too!

For more micro wedding inspiration and to begin planning the big details of your small (big) day, contact HauteFêtes today!


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